Monday, July 2, 2012

Balance


b  a  l  a  n  c  e

difficult
to achieve
when
one 
is 
always
looking
back

: : :

As I grow older, these three words like to dance 
among my thoughts

"woulda  coulda  shoulda"

Am I alone?
How about you? 


50 comments:

gina said...

Great image for your thoughts, Reena. I am totally in synch here....looking forward or just enjoying now is much healthier than looking back. I wrote along the same lines in my post today.

Gillian Olson said...

Love this image and yes I'm with you too.

Beth said...

ok, now i am nervous. i thought it got better with age. i'm doing that at 34 ... oh, pooh. but maybe it is just a human (woman) thing to do. ha. ha!! my list continues to change. wish you well with yours. big hugs. (:

Wayne (Woody), whatever said...

Nice photo! I'm right there with ya' :-( I've been so consumed with work that life is passing me by.

Sandra said...

i think them a LOT, all the time. even buying something, like a new camera or computer. i almost always think i coulda and shouda about that.

Madi and Mom said...

Reena another very creative picture and verse. Oh yes indeed I find myself saying the 3 same words. I was actually offered a job in San Francisco right after I rec'd my Associate degree. However, the time in which I was raised, 20 old girls (especially from the South) did not, to quote my Dad, go traipsing across the country alone....1969.

Over the years as I worked with grad students, I found myself always telling to accept a job way out of their comfort zone, in another city, state, country. While they were young was the time to stretch their wings. They often looked at me like I was crazy...why would they leave home. My answer was because you have been given this amazing opportunity that might not come again and you don't want to wonder 'what if' in 10 years.

Very very good post.
Hugs C

Madi and Mom said...

Also at the time of the job offer I had just started dating my future husband. About 6 months after the job offer, I found out he too had been offered a job in San Francisco that he turned down also. LOL

The flip side is...I would not want to change one thing about the life I've had or the adventures yet to come.
C

Florida Farm Girl said...

Oh, I have a few "wish I hads", but for the most part I really try to banish "woulda, shoulda, coulda" from my vocabulary and my life. I've had an amazing life thus far, much more so than I ever expected, so I'm just looking forward to what happens next.

Rohrerbot said...

Maybe a few things but I'm really happy where I'm at in life. I could make a lot of money and be unhappy or work doing something I love and be happy:) Since I work more than travel, I might as well make it count:) No regrets. But I'd love to be on that boat:)

Bob Bushell said...

Beautiful image. I love 'em, that's my idioms.

Chatty Crone said...

Oh Reena I totally get what you said and the photographs - your photos are breathtaking. sandie

Evelyn S. said...

I just want to know how I got to 70 (almost) so quickly!! Not much balance in my life right now, but it's working out okay, I think. Too much time spent alone (hubby still works), though.

Brian Miller said...

great shot...and so true on that verse....so easy to get stuck looking back as well...but the future is forward...

grammie g said...

Hi Reena...Yup..your not alone...I am almost 70 , and there are sooooo many things that I "coulda woulda shoulda" but ....love the photo, perfect object lesson!!
Grace

Claudia said...

You're not alone. But I try not to stay in that place because I really believe that what happened, happened and we all do the best we can at any given time in our life.

Of course, I wrestle with it just the same.

xo
Claudia

eileeninmd said...

So far I am happy with my life the way it is right now. I do wish I could stop working and have more fun time. I love your photo and it is perfect for your post. Have a Happy 4th of July!

Country Girl said...

You


are


not


alone.

Pat Tillett said...

That is so true! Gotta keep looking ahead... Very nice photo!

Judy @ daily yarns said...

Right beside you...That's why we're living in Southwest Wisconsin, we will never say "we shoulda".

My Journey With Candida said...

LOL... perfect words woulda shoulda coulda ! I wonder if I would of, when I could of and now I know I should have.

Gail Dixon (Louisiana Belle) said...

Heh, I'm right there in that boat with ya. I try to paddle to calmer waters, but sometimes my mind--well--does what it damn well pleases. :)

S. Etole said...

Beautiful image and thoughts. Those are three words that definitely disrupt one's peace if allowed to linger.

(GBS) NewsFromTheHill said...

I do feel a bit adrift as your photo alludes to... but I'm not looking back these days.
Our move to VA has been a good one and it's made us look to the future with more excitement and involvement in our community than I ever thought possible.
But the feeling of being adrift is terribly strong since we're in limbo while our house is being finished. I find it hard after being settled for so long to be without a home of my own.

Madge Bloom said...

Marvelous!

GailO said...

So often I think these three words but I try very hard not to because I don't think it is good to...I especially continuously beat myself up over something I shoulda done maybe 15 years ago. Nothing can change what happened and I do so wish I could just let it go...

Having said that I have to say that now when I hear those three words I think about an often repeated skit on the Jay Leno Tonight show with three comedians taking each of those positions on a question posed...I can't explain it but it always gets me laughing:)

bon bon said...

this is so pretty with the contrasting lights and darks!

as for the woulda coulda shoulda? i'll leave it at, i do what i can...

Mark said...

The 3 words I find myself saying as I get older are...MY KNEES HURT

Rose L said...

I have many ideas of "woulda, coulda, shoulda." The last 6 years have been such a roller coaster of emotions, sadness, disappointments, fear and worry. At 60 years of age I face the serious illness of my husband, having dealt with his dementia and other illnesses for the past 6 years and the emotions it has involved, having to deal with a son who has chosen to follow the path of his birth mother who was a drug addict, dealing with the loss of our entire savings and retirement funds due to husbands illnesses, and possibility of homelessness at 60. It is scary.
I will think "if I shoulda__________and I woulda_______. So much regret and fear in the latter years and I did not expect it to be this way now.

Stewart M said...

Hi there - nice picture - like the way it’s just sat there.

The bad feather day is a good post as well!

Stewart M

Daryl Edelstein said...

not so much .. mainly because between the time I decide to think back and I actually do I've forgotten what I was going to think about .. I exaggerate .. some

Catherine said...

You are not alone! I do the woulda coulda shoulda as well! And a good helping of 'what ifs' too! :(

xo Catherine

Amish Stories said...

The older I get I'm now finding myself re-thinking some of the things that I have done in the past, and of course going back to change what has already happened is impossible. So now I make an effort in doing something the right way the first time so I have no regrets, or hope that I dont anyway!
Happy July 4 to everyone and Id like to invite everyone to my post "Lancaster on 4 wheels part 2 this coming Thursday. Richard

rainfield61 said...

Am trying to take a balance in order to know what is balance.

Linda R said...

Yep.. I have to admit I play that same game in my mind.

Love the photo and the quote..

Hugs~

Pat said...

I love this photo!

islandwonder said...

Not looking back. Something I need to practice. Good advice.

CherryPie said...

I try not to have those thoughts because the paths and decisions I made along life's path are what have made me who I am today. I am happy with where I am, but I still have a way to go ;-)

Jennifer Richardson said...

not one bit alone:)
-Jennifer

EG CameraGirl said...

I try very hard not to look back too much. We cannot do anything to change the past but we can certainly influence the future. :)

Barbara said...

They constantly dance in my thoughts, especially when I think about giving up a college scholarship now that I'm paying for my three kids. Ugh!

Ivanhoe said...

I'm trying not to. I burried some stuff deep though. And I know that one day it will come up. Yikes! ;)
Have a happy and safe 4th, Reena!

Dianne said...

I try to stay in the moment
operative word being try

love the balanced boat

Hilary said...

You're not alone.. I often go there too, but that thought process truly is a waste of energy. The only good that comes from it is what we learn for next time. Lovely photo, Reena.

ladyfi said...

Fabulous shot! The thing is to live in the present and be kind in order to have a great future.

Betty Manousos said...

yep, you're not alone!

fantastic photo, too!

Snapper II said...

Thought provoking words.
I like the post.

Kerri said...

Actually - I was just thinking about this as I listened to a young man talking about what he wanted to do with his life - his goals etc. I thought to myself .... ah, to be young again - and I could do things over - but then I thought - there's no time like the present!!
If I can can dream it - then I can achieve it :)

LOVE Your pic!

Sharkbytes said...

I try not to go there or I get too depressed.

Liz said...

Great image & I love the way you shared your thoughts.
I try not to entertain those thoughts too much!! :)

Nancy Claeys said...

I find at my age, I take on too many projects at once. Balance? Not much. :)